During the first year of motherhood I found it was a much larger adjustment than I had originally thought. I assumed that because I have worked with young children for such a long time, I would do great and get into a groove in no time. Oh boy, was I wrong! Can any mamas relate? It took me quite a while to figure out my daughter’s routine and feel comfortable. During this period of adjustment, and the whole first year in general, I realized that I had put my own needs on the back burner in order to care for my daughter. I often had days when I could not remember the last time I showered or even brushed my teeth. I forgot to eat, drink and sometimes even pee.Who’s with me? I think we all do this. That crying baby takes up ALL of your time for a while. And anytime she slept, I slept. That’s what EVERYONE told me to do but I don’t think they meant to do that the whole first year. But that’s precisely what I did because I was exhausted most of the time. Here is a picture of our little princess at 3 weeks old.
I know, I know I went a little off track from the point there. But my theme for my new year’s resolutions for 2018 is to focus more on my needs and take better care of myself. This does not mean, in any way, that I will be neglecting my daughter. She will get just as much love, attention and care as she always has. Allison is mine and my husband’s pride and joy but I really want to raise my daughter to value herself and take care of herself. How can I do that without being her example? And how can I continue to care for her if I don’t care for myself? What does the airline crew always tell us? Oxygen mask on yourself and then your child. Sounds crazy but it makes sense to me. I think when any mom thinks about doing something for herself before her child the mom guilt kicks in and we just don’t do it. Listen up mamas, it’s ok to do for yourself sometimes. Don’t feel bad, as long as you are doing the best you can and your children have everything they need, it’s ok to be a little selfish sometimes. So keep reading if you want to know how I am going to be a little selfish this year.
RESOLUTION #1: Creating Both a Morning and Night Routine
I have always heard that successful, productive people have a morning and night routine. I have looked on YouTube and other blogs to learn about what some do during these routines. Some include activities that I already do such as taking my vitamins and brushing my teeth before bed. Yes, I remember to brush my teeth now that the newborn stage is over. But I would also like to incorporate things such as writing in a journal and practicing meditation. Follow me on Instagram to see how well I follow them. Below is a list of my new routine.
- 5:30 am-Wake up
- Drink 1 glass of water
- Meditate/yoga for 10 minutes
- Make coffee and breakfast
- Get ready for the day
- Go over affirmations for the day
- 8:00 pm-Allison goes to sleep
- 8:15 pm- Write in journal
- Meditate/yoga for 10 minutes
- Write my goals/to do for the next day
- Get ready for bed
- In bed by 10:30 pm
RESOLUTION #2: Self-Love
This is a big one for me this year. I am someone who, like many, has low self confidence because I am very hard on myself. I have “negative self-talk” from what most motivational speakers call it. You know, when you think in your head about attempting something and you immediately talk yourself out of it by thinking things like, “No, you can’t do that. You’re not smart enough or talented enough.” But one thing I have learned is that if you have enough passion and willpower, you can do anything you put your mind to. And that is exactly what I am going to do. I am going to go through 2018 with great self-talk and a positive attitude. I have been thinking about starting a blog and opening a shop on Etsy, but have talked myself out of it many times. Not anymore, here is my first blog post and I will be opening my Etsy shop later in January. (Be on the lookout for my link.) I will be making baby blankets with matching burp cloths and bibs.
RESOLUTION #3: Self-Discipline
To go along with my last resolution is self-disciple. When you’re a child your parents are there to discipline you so you do what you’re supposed to and don’t get too far off track. Well as an adult I have not done that for myself. I do go to work everyday and pay my bills but I would like to be more disciplined with my time management, eating healthier, and just being proactive in my own life. I will also need to have self- discipline with my new endeavors. I will need to make sure I am posting on time on my blog and keeping my Etsy shop stocked. Let’s be honest, most of my resolutions require self-discipline, so I better get on it if I am going to make 2018 my best year yet.
RESOLUTION #4: One ME Night Per Week
To continue with my theme of creating a better me, I would like to designate one night per week to myself. This will include a bath bomb bath, actually shaving my legs, moisturizing, a face mask and anything else I feel will ready me for the week ahead. I feel it is so important to have a night where you can recharge for the week ahead. In order to accomplish all of your goals, you have to take care of yourself and not burn out. YOU ARE YOUR OWN GREATEST TOOL TO CREATE YOUR BEST LIFE!
These next two resolutions are also super important to me because I feel that having healthy relationships in your life adds immeasurable value to yours and their overall health and well being!
RESOLUTION #5: Family Trips
For this next resolution I would like to go on at least one out of town trip with my family per month. Just me, my husband and our daughter. Exploring the world around us is one of mine and my husbands favorite past times. I would also like my daughter to become as enthralled with it as we are. Explore your world, people! You only live once, so make it the very best you can! There are many free parks, rivers, lakes, and even historical towns that don’t cost much to explore. We live in Northern California and our favorite places to see are San Francisco, Virginia City in Nevada and Tahoe. But, as of late, we have been trying to visit places we have never been before.
Resolution #6: Bi-weekly Date Nights
This last resolution is meant to strengthen my bond with my husband and make sure we never lose it. We have been married for four years and together for nearly ten years. That being said, we have been through A LOT together. He is my best friend and I am his, but that doesn’t mean our life is perfect. A marriage has to be tended to often. No matter how long you are together, you have to continue to show your significant other how much you care. Since we have had Allison it has been quite hard to focus so much on our relationship, but, I think this is another example of, “Taking care of us, so we can care for her.” We plan to act like we are dating again. Going to the movies, getting dinner together(at somewhere other than Denny’s), pretending to pick each other up at the bar, and many other crazy ideas. If you’re interested in knowing where we go on dates comment below and I will try and post some pictures/info on my Instagram or Facebook page.
“Don’t ever stop dating your wife and don’t ever stop flirting with your husband.” Author Unknown
I hope you all enjoyed my first blog post and most importantly I hope it inspires you to live your best life! Please leave your thoughts in the comments.
Much love to all,
The Sweet N Sassy Mama